Sisters! Some of us have biological sisters and some of us have sisters who are not related to us at all. I am blessed to have both. I have a biological sister and I have women in my life who are more than just my friends. They are my sisters. Two of my sisters who are not related to me, I’ve known since I was 16 years old. In this relationship I am the baby. And they have always treated me like the baby sister. Meaning, they are protective, they give me tough love even when I don’t want to hear it. And they have taught me a lot of valuable lessons about careers, friendships, parenthood, and relationships. I have to say that these two sisters have been a major part of my life and have assisted in shaping me into the woman I am today.
When I was a teenager, my mom really trusted these two women. She always allowed me to go off with them because she knew that if I was with them, I would be safe. And here’s the cool thing about my sisters. I was younger than them so when I was in high school, they both were in college. I still had a curfew, they didn’t. But guess what? They always got me back home in time for my curfew. Now, that I think about that…wow that was unselfish of them. They easily could have been like, “Um we don’t have a curfew so we will have to figure out a way to sneak you back in the house without your mom knowing.” Instead, neither one of them tripped on the fact that I needed to be home at a certain time. They just did what they had to do because they respected the boundaries or rather rules that my mom had set for me. Hey, that’s what sisterhood is all about- respect and love.
Celebrating Sisterhood
I’m sure you all have seen the new shows that celebrate sisterhood like Run the World, Harlem and of course the reboot of my all-time favorite Sex in the City (And just like that). Well, these shows got me really thinking about my sister circle and how much they mean to me. Having a strong sisterhood with one woman or even several women can be a strong connection that last a lifetime. Also, this special bond brings out a sense of belonging to people who might feel isolated and alone at times.
Having a sense of belonging is so important to all women and girls, and the acceptance from the group can help individuals show acceptance and growth within themselves. I think you can see that in all the shows that I just mentioned. All three of these shows have a set of 3-4 women who are all very different in terms of personalities, careers, styles and even looks. However, they all have strong connections and are all mirrors to each other. They can’t hide who they really are. They are their authentic self’s when they are with each other. Being authentic is important in a sisterhood. Being your authentic and vulnerable self is crucial to the bond of sisterhood. Not being afraid to take off that wig, weave, lashes, and makeup and just be YOU around one another is the foundation of sisterhood.
And Just Like That!
Now, everything I just said is a bit serious, but having sisters is also fun too. As part of my sisterhood tradition with my two sisters at least a few times a year, we all get together for a sisters weekend. A weekend of just US! One of my sister’s flew in from Kansas City to Atlanta and met myself and my other sister who also lives in Atlanta. We had an awesome time, but let me tell you, just like that we are no longer in our 20’s. LOL! Meaning, our definition of going out and kicking it has changed. When we got together on Friday, our agenda included us going to lunch, getting foot massages, heading to the mall and doing an early dinner and drinks at a sushi restaurant. Now, we each had about 2 drinks and finished with dinner by 7:30 p.m. You would think that we were ready to hit up the next spot. Instead, we were all like, “Whew, man we can go home put on our PJ’s pop some popcorn and watch movies.” LOL. We got back to my place around 8:00 p.m. and were in our PJ’s by 8:15 p.m. with popcorn popped. And just like that- Friday nights look a bit differently now. On Saturday, I cooked breakfast for my sisters. We had quiche, home fries and very strong mimosas. Of course, everything was good because well…I cooked it. Anyway, we watched a movie while eating breakfast. After breakfast, we did some retail therapy and decided to grab a pizza for dinner and take it home so we could watch movies.
Now, as we were heading back to my place, traffic was crazy people were driving reckless. Suddenly, we all said at the same time, ‘Man it’s time to get off these streets and stay in the house.!” Hilarious, at this point it’s like 7:00 p.m. Once again, we were not looking to go out we were excited to be at home eating pizza while watching movies. And just like that, home on a Saturday night with my sisters. We all joked about how when we were younger, we would be trying to kick-it to the next bar or club, but honestly when you want to spend quality time with your sisters, kicking back at the house with libations, and good food is priceless.
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