Reset!

The definition of “Reset” is to set again, to set adjust or fix in a new or different way.   Sometimes you just need to hit the button and reset, reboot, re-jigger…whatever word you want to use. The bottom line is that in life you sometimes have to reset.

In the last week, I’ve had the pleasure to sit down and talk to several women. One was in her mid 20’s, one was in her early 40’s and one was in her early 50’s. All of these women, while very different physically and chronologically, had one thing in common. What you ask? They were all finding themselves at a cross roads in their lives.

One woman was dealing with transitioning from being the girlfriend to being an engaged woman living with her fiancé. Another woman was dealing with working at a company for 17 years and now all of sudden she found herself laid off. And yet the last woman, was dealing with being unjustly fired from her job, still single in her 40s and childless and now wanting another career but feels that she’s too old to start over.  And she still wants to be married and have children.

Yes, all of these beautiful women were indeed at a crossroads in their lives. We’ve all been there indeed. Their stories are not that different from yours or mine. In case you didn’t know, I’ve been laid off about seven times in my life. I am in my 40s still not married and still don’t have any children, and I do want both…still.  I’ve wanted a career change, and now I find myself trying to become more financially comfortable where I can get out of debt and give back to my community in a philanthropic way. You see, we all have different “crossroads” that we are dealing with.

Now, what kind of advice do I have to give you, myself and to my girlfriends?  Here it is.  Come closer.  You ready? Ok. What you need to do is take a step back, push the button and hit “reset.”   Just take a minute to yourself and just breath.  Take a minute to think about what you can do to change your situation or make your situation better.  If you want a new career, think about ways that you can reinvent yourself. For example, get that certification that you always wanted, go back to school and take a few extra classes, job shadow someone who has the job that you would like to have…do whatever it is to help re-ignite that passion, that sprit inside of you.  It doesn’t matter how old you are. You are never to old to have passion.

If you are out of work, use this time to figure out what you are passionate about maybe this is your opportunity to start your own business. Perhaps, this is God saying to you that you need a minute to just relax and take a break..”Reset!” Go on that much needed vacation that you’ve been putting off.

If you are single and find yourself still wanting to not be single anymore,  take this time to “Reset” figure out what you want in life. Figure out what you want in a partner. And more importantly, use this time to figure out how you can be a good partner for someone else. But mostly, take this time to “do you!”  Enjoy yourself doing the things that make you who you are.  You attract what you put out.  While you are doing you, you will be surprised at what will come your way.

Ladies, the bottom line is this. You can’t let your situation get the best of you.  Yes, sometimes what we are going through can be very stressful, overwhelming and we don’t know how to cope. What you don’t want to do is bottle it up inside.  To help you “reset” think about going on a nice leisurely walk,  or perhaps sitting outside sipping on your favorite beverage, workout or sit in your prayer closet with a lit candle and just talk to God. I do all of these things on a regular basis, and they help me to “Reset” my life when I’m feeling overwhelmed and stressed.

It is important for you to take a minute to “reset” and get yourself back on track to face your situations.  And it’s OK if you have to hit “reset” a few times.  There’s nothing wrong with that, as long as you get back on course to being your best self, living your best life!